So my man decided to join me in the shower last Saturday. He loves to wash my hair and back and, okay, naughty bits too. (Truth be told, I think he's mainly there for the naughty-bit-washing. The shock!) On this particular Saturday, I was out of body wash. Vikki's been...

orgasm classification

According to my man, who has done intensive study on the subject, I apparently have three types of orgasm. I laughed out loud when he said it - that many types, really? - but once he explained it to me, I couldn't help but agree. Please note the naming is...

spreading the legs

Opening your legs is one of the most vulnerable things a woman can do. It gives access to areas of her body where she's most sensitive, most vulnerable. Done right, the simple act of getting those legs open for the first time can be a huge turn on in and...

just when you never thought it would happen

I'm sure the only computers still checking this web site for updates are manned by 'bots; however, that's OK. This was always more a place for me to think out loud and formulate my desires, dreams and opinions "out loud", so to speak - so it's just fine that there...

for the woman who has everything

Today, I ran across the craziest bit of bling (and normally I, like most girls, am healthily attracted to bling) that I've ever seen in my life. That is to say, I found a $1500 vibrator. Yeah, you read that right. Called the YVA Gold, the thing is a cordless,...

why must women be the bearer?

Lately, I've been reading some things that make it hard for me to maintain a grip on my feelings towards men. I realize, fully and completely, how stupid and pointless and unfair it is to tar an entire gender with the same brush. And yet. The theme this week seems...

sex toys and Stephen King

Mark Morford was telling me this morning all about something that he thinks is the most sex-positive thing to happen in simply ages. The news is simple. Amazon sells sex toys. (Okay, that's not exactly news. But I love his take on it.) What a wonderful message this sends. What...

the office flirtation

I've recently been reading Sex in the Office, yet another in a long series of Black Lace short story collections, and I have to admit, the whole Sex in the Office thing does it for me. Actually, the whole forbidden fruit thing does it for me, period, but that's a...

coming clean about getting dirty

Bear with me, all, this post's been a long time in coming. And those of you who still manage to stop by occasionally may begin to understand why Vikki's been such a quiet little thing this year. It's been a tough year. There's been cancer, and almost-cancer, a heart attack,...

it is within you

A blanket response to all the women who have e-mailed me lately looking for relationship advice: I don't know why it is that women will stay in hurtful, dead or downright abusive relationships for as long as they do. "But I love him!" they moan. [I'm lying. Of course I...

cravings

Life has been crazy lately. It has been tense, it has been busy, and it has required me to be Alert And In Control far too often. My S.O.'s life has also been tense and busy. Our visits with each other have been far less frequent than either of us...

the importance of orgasms

[Wow. Did I really last post something here two months ago? I'm so sorry, folks, it has been a tough time and the days and weeks have been slipping away from me too quickly, sand through my fingers and no real way to grab on of late. But I do...

products: the Body Bare shaving system

It didn't take long after my first shave to figure out that I loved being completely bare between the thighs. It felt sexy and soft and a little naughty, and I couldn't get enough of it. The biggest problem, of course, was how to maintain this slip-slidey feeling all the...

from ye olde mailbag

I know. Two posts in a month. Y'all might faint. :) Dana writes: I was just wondering if you could tell me exactly how you got into BDSM? I mean, was it something that just happened? A partner who was interested and sparked your interest? You had always been interested...

what the hell was that?

Something happened the other night that has me mystified. I was being stimulated, close to orgasm, built up and up and then finally I was there, I was having an orgasm but it didn't feel like relief, it felt like there was more and things kept happening and it built...